Compertion vs. fun

Playing sport isn't all about winning, it's about playing as a team and having fun. You still play competitively, you have to, but whether you win or lose doesn't matter. If you've tried and lost, that's great. You still had fun and you tired your best, there is no need to beat yourself up. If you won, that's great too because you tried and had fun. Working as team, trying your hardest and having fun is all it takes to be a winner. You can lose and still win, just depends on which way you look at it. 

It is never about winning or losing, only about having fun.